Day 314 – Serious Play

Last Friday, I went dancing with some pretty fantastic people.  One silly moment stood out for me.  Randomly, a great friend of mine mentioned that she had seen my MFA thesis production and didn’t understand it at all.  As it was a Dadaist piece called Mouchoirs de Nuages written by Tristan Tzara, I wasn’t overly surprised by her comment.  The ridiculous pick-up line that came out of our conversation was : “Do you want me to put my thesis in your Dropbox from the bar baby?”

Fast forward a few days, and another friend of mine heard snippets of thesis conversation and wanted to know more.  This sparked a whole discussion about my process as a director, my opinions on collaboration and my method of creating “art” (which I put in quotes because I still don’t have the balls to fully admit the fact that I can create such a magical thing.)  Now it would take too long to explain everything discussed (and you’d probably fall asleep on your keyboard), however, one of the points that stood out for me is that trying to find the “right” answers in any creative process is extremely tricky.  Most times, the best way to go about creating something special is to know the right questions to ask.

Moving on…


Pretty much everyone has heard of Lego before.   My most recent definition of it would be “the hard plastic things I step on accidentally because my kids don’t put them away.”  I rarely think about it outside of a parenting context, but that changed when a certain Phil Culhane started commenting on my blog.  According to his blog, he is a “facilitator of complex collaborative efforts.”  Gee, that sure sounded familiar.  Isn’t that what I do… just… different?

Essentially Phil is trained Lego Serious Play (which I can’t actually say without grinning… come on!  Serious?  Play?  teehee) and he was generous enough to meet me at Bridgehead and show me how it’s done.  So, over coffees and noms (ham and cheese croissant for me… carrot cake for him… smart man!) he talked me through the process of building 3D metaphorical models.  I don’t want to outline the process too much here because I fear I couldn’t really do it justice.  Suffice it to say that what Phil does to help innovate and improve business performance is very similar to elements of how I work as a director for the theatre.   Some key things I got out of it:

– To create, ideal conditions are 1/3 structure + 2/3 chaos

– Yes it’s important to ask the right questions, but it’s even more important to know how to tailor the questions to get the best results out of each individual.

– When creating a model, not everything needs to have “meaning”.  When Phil asked me to explain the story of what I built, he didn’t press me to make concrete or even metaphorical sense of everything I had done.  Some things just were.  And some things gained meaning during discussion when they were just impulse before.

Something else also struck me.  It wasn’t until Phil mentioned it that I noticed that many people in the Bridgehead seemed really  intrigued by what I was doing.  It didn’t even dawn on me that it would be strange for a grown woman to be sitting in a café playing with Lego. And with such focus at that.

For one, I was kind of proud that I’ve come to a point in my life where I don’t mind trying new things and possibly looking like an idiot doing it.  Secondly, I couldn’t help but feel bad for the people around me… they were clearly jealous… they wanted to play!

Awesome moment of joy… serious play… and seriously learning about myself in the process.

Day 313 – Relishing

I met someone pretty darn special not too long ago.  Her twitter handle is @relishing which, in the grand scheme of my blog, is absolutely perfect.

She started this amazing project in April 2010.  A 100 Strangers photography project.  I was immediately intrigued and emailed her my info.  After lots of communication back and forth, debating on location and whatnot, we finally scheduled something for Friday December 3rd.  Well, events that occurred on December 2nd altered the course of my life.  Though I was dealing with huge change, I felt real sadness for having to cancel the shoot.  Seems kind of silly now, in retrospect, but in the moment I was very disappointed.

Fast forward a few months.  While on a fun jaunt with my new Little Sis, I tweeted a picture to @relishing.  A moment of inspiration.  The location had (still has) major significance to me.  I thought she might dig it.

She did dig it.

We finally met at the Chateau Laurier and walked over to Nepean Point and its Astrolabe Theatre.   While she asked me random questions, her adorable (and clearly adoring!) husband held the flash so she could take the shots.  I felt under the microscope, in the nicest possible way.  I’m pretty much an open book… willing to tell my story to anyone who will listen… but it felt amazing to have someone really, truly listen.

She shares her favourite shots with her strangers, usually picking their favourites to post on her Le Mien site.  The director and artist in me stepped back from doing that.  I wanted her to be able to tell the story as she saw it.  She chose the shots.  Not me.  And I’m totally happy with that.

Meeting Kym and being Stranger#66… a calming, relaxing, inspiring moment of joy.